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by RunDontWalk ^Pro @ 2008-07-04 – 00:43:34

Was watching a commercial with a woman fully preggers and such, confident with her belly out to THERE and that got me thinking.

I never really enjoyed being pregnant.

There.

I've said it.

I felt out of place, totally fat and disgustingly overwhelmed.

Some folks thrive on being pregnant and love every second of it and that's beautiful.

I admire women who experience pregnancy and embrace it with open arms.

Unfortunately, I was not one of 'em.

No one put a gun to my head and forced me to get pregnant. I did it willingly and rather naively I might add. I truly had no idea what I was getting into. But then, not many of us do, now do we?

I think that my experience being pregnant was compounded by the fact that I was too young to be birthing babies and I was in an abusive relationship.

How could I enjoy being pregnant?

Not being a victim but merely stating the facts.

Having said what I have, I would truly love to hear your stories of pregnancy or what you think being pregnant will/would mean to you for the miracle of giving birth is just that, a miracle.

Go on now, you know you want to...
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- The_Walrus
- http://www.doctor-dark.co.uk
- 2008-07-04 @ 00:52:57
I have never been even slightly pregnant, but twelve and a half years ago, a nurse said to me "Well, Mr Walrus, you had better get your little boy dressed now." Everything in the Universe changed at that moment.
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 01:19:17
  BOL!
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- sweetladyjane ^Pro
- 2008-07-04 @ 01:13:17
I loved being pregnant though I felt alone during all of them. Would I do it again? I don't know.
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 01:21:41
  I hear you hunny. I have mixed emotions on whether I would ever do it again.
  
  xxx
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- Cher2008
- http://www.loonargifts.ca
- 2008-07-04 @ 04:09:16
I did not like being pregnant at all. For both my kids I was really sick and it totally wrecked my body. I have more stretch marks then a map of Canada has roads, my teeth had gotten damaged, my skin, amongst other things. But darn do I have the two most beautiful children in the world, so yeah I'd do it all over again just to bring them into the world.. just not going for a third, lol.
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
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  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:48:29
  BOL! Don't blame you on the third pregnancy thingy. Originally, I had wanted 4 kids. That was before I had them. xx
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- sminchin ^Pro
- 2008-07-04 @ 08:52:22
I thrived on being pregnant the first time, I was too young to worry about what was coming next and just lapped up all of the attention from both set of parents about bringing their first grandchild into the world. A traumatic labour and 3 months of PND put pay to that and I swore I'd never do it again.
Just under 3 years later I got pregnant again and was much more realistic about the whole thing. I had to work until the month before he was due and got rather stressed from time to time with lots of treatments with anti-D (all to do with having R-negative blood) and fighting my corner for an elective caesarian after what had happened the first time. I got my c-section and everything was much better... no PND either!
When people ask if I'll have a 3rd I just point to the first one - 9lbs 3ozs - and then the second - 9lbs 14ozs - and find I don't have to say much more
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
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  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:50:07
  sminchin, I can't imagine squeezing out big babies like you did. I am impressed. xxx
  - - sminchin ^Pro
    - 2008-07-04 @ 11:55:49
    Squeezing the first one out nearly killed me - and him - which is why I had to stick to my guns about having a c-section with the 2nd. The consultant was really dismissive until he read my medical notes from the hospital where I'd had Rhys... suddenly he was much more supportive
    - - RunDontWalk ^Pro
      - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
      - 2008-07-04 @ 11:57:59
      'effing doctors. I am glad you were insistent and had a C-section.
      
      xxxxxxxx
      - sminchin ^Pro
        
        2008-07-04 @ 12:11:19
        
        He called me a "delicate little flower" - what an idiot!
        Even the surgeon told me during the pre-op check that he wouldn't be more than 9lbs, we really laughed when she had to make the incision bigger than normal and then he peed on her when she pulled him out. When they weighed him we told her that he would have been 10lbs if he hadn't peed on her All she could say was "That's a big baby!" Bless him, a character right from the start
        
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        RunDontWalk ^Pro
        
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        2008-07-06 @ 01:48:05
        
        I dunno if you are delicate but I do know you are a beautiful flower hunny. HUgs
        
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- Chyna_Doll
- 2008-07-04 @ 09:02:42
I did not like the contractions as they kept me up all night and the actual pain of giving birth! x
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:58:53
  *winces*
  
  I remember how awful the contractions and birthing the baby was.
  
  *whimpers*
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- subville ^Pro
- http://subville.blog.co.uk/
- 2008-07-04 @ 09:17:25
I disliked pregnancy too. Awful labour. Infection because of difficult birth (ventreuse, forceps) and PND after. Didn't enjoy it till he was a coupla years old. Wish **P** had been around then. She's an experienced midwife, actually became midwife tutor and is mega at encouraging. Really don't think I'd do it again. I don't have the maternal gene. xxx
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:56:49
  *eek* @ the infection. Birthing and raising babies are hard. That's a fact.
  
  When my son was born, I didn't bond with him for a long time. Most people assume that women have an instinctual maternal gene which we don't.
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- soyunperdedor ^Pro
- http://soyunperdedor.blog.co.uk
- 2008-07-04 @ 09:51:20
I want to be pregnant, just because I can, so I feel I should. I'm not so sure about the baby that follows it. One day maybe.
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:53:17
  I hear you hunny. It is one thing to get pregnant and quite another to raise the baby. When the nurse first handed me my baby, I had no clue what to do. xx
  - - soyunperdedor ^Pro
    - http://soyunperdedor.blog.co.uk
    - 2008-07-04 @ 11:55:16
    I really, really want kids at the moment, but it's such an idealistic view. Until you actually have them, you have no idea. I concluded a wee while ago that I'd probably make a good step-mother, but not much else!
    
    x
    - - RunDontWalk ^Pro
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      - 2008-07-04 @ 12:00:02
      You would make a great mother!
      
      xxxx
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- QueeneMab
- 2008-07-04 @ 10:21:00
I recall I looked quite good when pregnant, but felt crap. Was slimmer then than now actually.

Won't be repeating experience though.

X
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
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  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:50:50
  QueeneMab you ALWAYS look good.
  
  xxxx
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- miramaze
- 2008-07-04 @ 11:02:40
I loved being pregnant. It was meant to be . Prof's dad and I met , fell in love and started creating Prof within six weeks of meeting. Prior to that , I dreaded being pregnant and was very very careful with contraception.

In my case, love and divine intervention changes everything. Throughout my pregnancy I felt happy, alive and had masses of energy apart from the first weeks when I was tired all the time. No morning sickness. No cares or worries. I could eat what I liked and also drank wine and the occasional G&T which I would NEVER do now.

Somehow it all worked out well. Prof's dad come over for the birth. It was an easy birth - hard work as I remember - but not unbearable. It was an amazing experience.

I loved my big belly and Prof's company around the clock kicking and moving . There were times when my whole stomach would shift from left to right as he turned around .. sometimes I could almost grab a leg or arm Happy times Xxx I can go on forever about this lol .. you did ask .

I am so sorry that yours was such a horrendous experience. I would have been the same I think, had I been in an abusive relationship and simply too young and not ready. Horrors. Bless xxx
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
  - http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
  - 2008-07-04 @ 11:47:10
  Mira, I remember you telling me firsthand about your beautiful pregnancy with the Prof. I smile when I remember that too.
  
  Thank you
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- PurpleDragon
- 2008-07-06 @ 20:57:24
I loved the early days of all my pregnancies. When it got towards the 8th month, I was pretty much done, and ready to meet my child.

However, one time, I remember being proud as anything about my bump, and being asked why I couldn't "do the decent thing, and cover myself up". I was gutted.
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- Helen
- http://Paddy's friend
- 2008-07-08 @ 16:22:05
Hi Meno. I stopped blogging a while back but i hope you remember me and know that i read your blog everyday. Cant wait for you to come to Galway,Paddy,Scooby and i are sooo excited. We will have to go for a drink...... well orange juice for me as i will be nearly ready to pop my 1st baby out! Im having a lovely 1st pregnancy. Very tired for 1st few weeks and after adding some iron to my diet on doctors request i felt a million times better. I have been very lucky. Im 32 weeks now and finding that bump is getting in the way alot more now. Im scared about the birth but very open minded. Im doing yoga so i hope it helps when the day comes to meet our little boy. I could never see myself having children till i met Mj,its amazing what love can do! Hope you are well and i cant wait to meet you. Helen xxx
- - RunDontWalk ^Pro
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  - 2008-07-08 @ 23:35:05
  Helen!!!!!!!
  
  I remember you!
  
  Paddy told me that you are pregnant! I can hardly wait to meet you and MJ!
  
  WOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!
  
  Did someone mention a drink??
  
  See you soon...
  
  Hugs and kissessssssssssss
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